Couples Counseling

Communicating with your partner feels impossible!

Sometimes you get to a point in your relationship when something as simple as communication with your partner feels impossible.  Things between you feel distant, strained, and deeply stressed.

You hold out hope that over time maybe things will work themselves out and you’ll arrive at a place where your relationship doesn’t feel as tense and difficult as it does now.

But since you’re here reading this, I can only assume that things have reached a point where you’re feeling like you’re running out of options.

You know that something needs to change, and fast, because you can’t go on like this.

Maybe you’ve thought about counseling in the past but put it off.  You worried it would take years to work out your differences.  Don’t worry, it doesn’t take as long as you might think.

Under the current circumstances you’re probably avoiding each other whenever possible, constantly worried you’ll say the wrong thing and start a fight.  Your relationship has been reduced to simply trying to keep the peace.

The uncomfortable tension is becoming inescapable and although you’ve been doing a good job keeping it together for the kids, you know they feel it too.

They see what’s going on between you and they’re likely feeling stressed, wondering what the future holds for your family.  You want to model healthy relationships for them but with the way things are, you’re just trying to make it through another day, week, month or even year.

Living like this leaves you in a constant state of exhaustion, physically, mentally, and emotionally.  Having the same painful conversations over and over again with no resolution, only make this worse.

But it wasn’t always this way. 

In fact, far from it.

Remember when you first met? You probably talked for hours, wanting to know every little thing about one another. Each moment together was exciting and filled with the endless possibilities that the future held for you. You couldn’t get enough of each other. 

Time turned excitement into comfortable companionship. Life got busy, children came along, and the meaningful moments you had together were fewer and further between.

Life became more complicated, filled with responsibilities and demands. Eventually talking turned to arguing and any warmth left between you cooled off completely. 

You find yourselves on such different pages you can’t even imagine how you ever ended up together in the first place.

You’ve tried everything you can think to do on your own but nothing seems to change. You do things differently for a week or 2 but then quickly slip back into old patterns.

At the end of your rope, like so many of my clients, you find yourself Googling “couples counseling” or something to that effect.

As you read this you may be wondering if you’ve left things too long, if there’s even anything left to build on.

I can tell you from my experience, regardless of how hopeless it feels, things can be turned around. 

I see it all the time. 

Couples who can barely make eye contact when they first reluctantly walk through my office door, find their relationship shifting in ways they hadn’t thought possible.

Each week’s session builds on the last, and before they know it they’re talking again, spending time together, and working things out in ways they haven’t in years. 

And while that picture may seem like a distant fantasy right now, I can assure you that each one of the couples I’ve worked with felt the same way before they began our work together.

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The truth is…relationships are hard.

It takes work to change the way you’ve been doing things and it doesn’t happen overnight.

You need to reimagine your relationship in a new way, with supportive direction, accountability, and feedback.

With compassionate, insightful outside help to give you the tools and skills you need to communicate better, you can rebuild your marriage and reclaim the love you once shared.

That’s why I created my 90 day Relationship Rescue Program.

This program is designed to help you stop the cycle of painful arguments and bring peace to your relationship.

You’ll have an expert in your corner to help you figure out how to talk with your partner
without it ending in another painful fight.

You can stop worrying that the next hard conversation is only leading you closer to divorce.

You can stay together, make your marriage work, and keep your family together. You just need someone to help you figure out how to do that. A guide to show you how to communicate in a way that ensures you both feel heard and understood.

With your newfound communication skills and renewed trust, you’ll talk to each other with ease and comfort knowing you can bring up issues when they occur. 

You’ll feel hopeful about your future together and look forward to spending time with each other.

So if you’re ready to recreate a marriage where you feel confident, relaxed, and at ease, happily going home to each other at the end of the day, you’re in the right place.

In just 90 Days The Relationship Rescue program will help you: 

  • Put an end to the frustration, hopelessness, and aggravation of having the same painful and pointless arguments over and over again.
  • Show you exactly how to communicate in a supportive, open, and collaborative way, even when you see things differently.
  • Rekindle and restore the loving connection you once had, giving you hope and relief knowing you can continue to build and enjoy your lives together.

Your Relationship Rescue Program Includes:

  • Four supportive and insightful 50 minute sessions each month
  • Weekly perspective-shifting homework assignments that will help you connect with your partner and improve communication
  • Email or Voxer access for added support and accountability, where you’ll receive a response from me within 24 hours, Monday to Friday.

Why Choose my program?

Unlike other counselors, I have a specialized practice and work exclusively with couples.

Relationship counseling is different than individual work and requires a deep understanding of the sensitive dynamics of relationships and marriages. 

I have over 15 years of hands-on experience helping couples just like you wade through the waters of rebuilding a relationship that’s on the edge.

Way too many couples go to therapists that don’t know how to do couples work and end up causing more harm than good. 

They go to counseling for a few sessions, get no results and then drop out assuming it’s their relationship and not the skill level of the counselor that’s to blame.

What makes me different?

I’ve experienced this work firsthand in my own marriage.  Like you, I’ve reached low points in my marriage. I wasn’t sure we could come back from. But we did, and you can too. 

I promise I won’t ask you to do anything I myself haven’t done or don’t practice in my own marriage. 

Everything I teach is something I’ve been through. A combination of my years of training in couples counseling and more importantly my own experience of being married almost 20 years.

My program will help you get clear on the outcome you want to experience and help you to map out a step by step plan to get there.

Changing painful relationship patterns, improving communication and restoring a loving connection is entirely possible.

Relationship Counseling of Walpole can help you transform your relationship into a strong and loving partnership.

Schedule your free 15 minute consult today.

I’d love to hear from you about what’s going on in your relationship and see how we can work together.

What to expect When You Schedule a Couples Counseling Session:

  • I will meet with you and your partner for a first session.  During the first session I will be learning about you as a couple and about the problems and challenges in your relationship.  You will each have an opportunity to share your perspective of the current challenges in your relationship.
  • I will be getting a sense of the patterns that have developed between you and where the relationship gets stuck.  You’ll describe the kind of relationship you are hoping to create in the future so that we know what we’ll be working towards. 
  • After the initial session, I will schedule an individual session with each of you.  These individual sessions are an opportunity for me to get to know each of you better and understand your relationship more in depth.  After the two individual sessions I will meet with you as a couple again.  I’ll offer feedback about your relationship, including where I see you stuck and how each of you is contributing to the dynamics in your relationship.
  • Ongoing sessions, from that point on will be with both of you.  You will focus on recognizing the ineffective patterns that keep your relationship from moving forward.  You’ll create and practice new behaviors that support the kind of relationship you desire. These new skills will help you and your spouse understand each other better, creating a more meaningful connected marriage.  
 
There’s still plenty of time to live your best relationship 

Make an appointment today to restore the love and connection in your marriage. 

Still have questions? 

With Couples Counseling of Walpole you can:

  • End the cycle of conflict and blame and learn effective proven tools to restore your connection, You can begin to recover the closeness you long for.
  • You can learn to communicate in ways that build connection instead of distance so you can support one another through the big and small challenges of daily life.
  • Your relationship can change for the better. You can find new ways to see and appreciate each other and fall in love with the life you’ve created together. And you can begin to take the first steps in rediscovering each other at this season of your life.

    I would be honored to help you do this.